tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1307062082325982350.post4562017470425765611..comments2023-08-20T07:48:49.164-07:00Comments on Infinite Potatoes: False AuthoritySnrIncognitohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06265075168854851243noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1307062082325982350.post-52142367331203039592007-10-01T16:47:00.000-07:002007-10-01T16:47:00.000-07:00When i was a little kid, and even to this day, i h...When i was a little kid, and even to this day, i have always wanted to be like my parents. An odd combination of open-catholic-community-socially-skilled and reserved-hardened-learned-traveled-weathered-wealth-of-knowledge, i always thought that if i could just halve myself down the middle and pull from each of them, i'd be one pretty damn good person. <BR/><BR/>So i did, and what i found out while trying the combinations which i felt were the true "me", is that the way my parents are now is a culmination of their whole lives and i can't draw upon these characteristics unless i live some of them. <BR/><BR/>I was sheltered and spoiled my whole life, in the best ways. While i never had problems with self identification, sex, or emotions, i have problems with other real-life situations: money handling, legal stuff, and dealing with people in a potentially dangerous situation. When confronted with things like that, i usually tuck tail and run home, which i blame on my parents insisting to fight my battles for me. Of course i know now that this is kind of an "instinct" for them to take me under their wing and deal with the snapping jaws of the beast. And i know that while whispering to me "everything is going to be ok, we'll get through this" they're not even thinking of the outcome, they're focused on the battle, the next moves they are going to pull, and how in the world they're going to get through it. <BR/><BR/>Through hard times, it seems like they always knew what to do, and so i find myself thinking about my own kids... how i will possibly be able to know the right moves to make. And even without thinking of kids, how the hell am i supposed to get married, buy a house, get a new car, set up a 401k, think about retirement, and find a job that will allow me to have kids in the first place!? Ack. Then how do i enjoy my youth without tying myself down to the things listed above?yeaaahtoasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12212568823524226904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1307062082325982350.post-83955947201566958592007-09-26T11:59:00.000-07:002007-09-26T11:59:00.000-07:00pendulum swings seem to occur in everything. when ...pendulum swings seem to occur in everything. <BR/><BR/>when youre a child, appearance is reality. when you get older, experience is reality. time to revisit that great 'ol question "what is reality?" <BR/><BR/>thinking that information means knowledge says to me that you have a lot of faith in other people. <BR/><BR/>thinking that personal experience means knowledge says to me thaty ou have a lot of faith in yourself. this is, i think, the big jump between chldhood and adulthood. <BR/><BR/>when a child, you have no power. you trust those who take care of you because you have no reason not to and no alternative. you find that size, and age endow you with the ability to experience. eventually, your power and your experience start conflicting with others'. more importantly, you discover that all the information youve been given, all of it, has come from the experiences of others. so, yours must be just as good. right?<BR/><BR/>well...sorta. just because you experneice something differnetly from someone else doesn't mean your two perspectives are equally valid. there are a lot of factors that go into a perspective.<BR/><BR/>adulthood comes when you know that there's a lot more to discovering truth than either trust or confidence. testing ideas against experience and recognizing when experience and bias coincide is the test of an adult's reasoning abilities.<BR/><BR/>many people who have lived for half a century are still children. <BR/><BR/>as adults it's our duty to examine what we've been told and what we see with the same skeptical lense.SnrIncognitohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06265075168854851243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1307062082325982350.post-48537341618687257282007-09-26T01:53:00.000-07:002007-09-26T01:53:00.000-07:00also those who isolate themselves from the other g...also those who isolate themselves from the other guessers (extended family) which is a pattern in the u.s. will suck at guessing more - which is why your/and mine and everyone elses parents probably were such n00bs and really were throwing chance at the wind. but like wikipedia with more user input extended families are ftw. i'm in egypt btw unique perspective maybe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1307062082325982350.post-18116579562356742902007-09-25T12:48:00.000-07:002007-09-25T12:48:00.000-07:00some guesses are better than other guesses. someo...some guesses are better than other guesses. someone who has been guessing a bit longer will be a bit better at it, and his or her advice might do well to be heeded. imhoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1307062082325982350.post-65995148653342391142007-09-24T11:49:00.000-07:002007-09-24T11:49:00.000-07:00I love change. I am of the school of "bend like t...I love change. I am of the school of "bend like the reed or break like the oak." This holds true in literature, where it is important to be dynamic or to buckle under the pressure of a conflict.<BR/><BR/>This is one of the reasons I chose to stick with working on the net. In a year's time, the nature of my job has changed to something completely different than it used to be. Before, it was to attract attention to existing brands. Now, it is to help change the nature of the way brands are represented. Who knows what it'll be like in another year's time?<BR/><BR/>In this manner, I think it's exciting to not have a clue. You then are able to shape the reality around you by your actions based on what you need to address. For example, your parents hadn't a clue about how to get you to where they wanted you to go - but by putting up the façade that they did know, they were able to significantly influence you, to create values, all while not having a clue. <BR/><BR/>Cluelessness instigates change because it takes moxie to step up the challenge. It forces you to become a dynamic character. And this is what I find to be exciting about adulthood - it's roller coaster scary, not haunted house scary. <BR/><BR/>I will quote the great Greeks yet again in this group blog: "I am wiser than many more men because I realize that I know nothing." Once I understood this - once I understood that life was just a series of improvising - I actually <I>did</I> have that epiphany moment. I realized I <I>don't</I> know everything to do, and from that point on I was able to act accordingly <I>with</I> some authority and conviction. <BR/><BR/>After all, if you have all the answers, where is there left to go?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com